A person's face and physique are actually a true reflection of their inner emotions. A beautiful woman with perfect facial features and flawless body proportions will certainly not be radiant and charming if she is always preoccupied, depressed, scheming, or eccentric.
The old saying, "Your appearance reflects your heart," illustrates this point.
If a person is always in a bad mood, their facial features will appear deeply droopy; conversely, if their emotions are always peaceful and joyful, they will always appear gentle and beautiful.
Recently, two guests who left a deep impression on me visited my aging center in Shanghai.
One of them is Ms. Xu. She is a senior manager at a large foreign trade company in Shanghai. She has dry, short hair, a dark gray suit, and black chunky-heeled leather shoes. Her face still shows signs of weariness and resentment. She is just over 40, but she looks like a "wretched old woman" who is over 50 and has been abandoned by life.
Another woman, Ms. Zhang, is an English professor at a university in Shanghai, a 46-year-old divorced woman raising her daughter alone. She wears light blue low-cut leather shoes, light lipstick, and a faint smile; she looks no more than 38 years old.
The stark contrast between the two piqued my curiosity.
During our conversation, Ms. Xu complained incessantly. She said that she had been under immense work pressure lately, and she and her husband were no exception; they would argue over the slightest thing. Her son was also becoming increasingly difficult to manage, fighting and causing trouble at school, but remaining silent at home. She was extremely frustrated, feeling that her life was a tangled mess, leaving her utterly exhausted...
Ms. Zhang told me that ten years ago, when she first separated from her husband, she went through a period of depression and despair, locking herself in her house every day, hating her husband for his infidelity and pitying herself for her misery. They say "forty is the age of magnanimity," but she was abandoned by her husband when she was nearly 40. Was life really just a farce?! How could she continue after this?! During that time, she was trapped in a vortex of burning pain and despair, letting herself become disheveled and unkempt. It was as if she had aged more than ten years overnight.
But time heals all wounds. She decided to completely change her mindset and make amends to herself. Shopping, meeting friends, watching movies, practicing yoga, taking her daughter on trips... After a few months, she was like a different person, more energetic, more beautiful, and more attentive to herself and her daughter. She could even speak calmly about her ex-husband who abandoned her family. "At least," she said with emotion, "I have to thank him for giving me a lovely daughter, and for teaching me how to live with the right mindset."
Indeed, whether a person, especially a woman, is beautiful or not, and whether she looks old or not, is largely determined by her mindset.
Your appearance reflects your heart.
A person's face and physique are actually a true reflection of their inner emotions. A beautiful woman with perfect features and an impeccable figure, if she is always preoccupied, melancholic, scheming, or eccentric, will certainly not have a bright and charming face. On the other hand, a kind, warm, positive, and optimistic person with less-than-perfect features and figure, or even a disability, will radiate vitality, and their face will surely be full of spring-like joy.
Therefore, no matter what situation one encounters, one must never give up on oneself or hope for life. On the contrary, the more difficulties, troubles, or setbacks one encounters, the more one should know how to adjust one's mindset, view life correctly, treat oneself and others kindly.
Why not simply "let by gones by gones"-immediately, right now, right away-correct your attitude and try to "cherish" yourself in a way you like? You'll find that as your mindset changes, your body and soul quietly unfold, your worries disappear, and life is bathed in the light of hope once again!
Don't let your life turn black and white.
Many middle-aged and elderly women in China have this confusion: "I'm already in my forties and fifties, what's the point of being beautiful? I don't need to dress up or be particular like a young girl!" In fact, this kind of thinking is a wrong mindset about age.
People possess different kinds of beauty at different ages. In youth, there is the beauty of innocence; in adolescence, the beauty of youth; and in adulthood, the beauty of intellect. After 40, there is the beauty of maturity; and after 50, age can either enhance or diminish one's appearance.
Many women stop paying attention to their hairstyles and clothing after they turn forty, and they don't even dare to wear slightly red lipstick. They always choose dark colors such as dark blue, dark gray, and dark brown for their clothes, and only choose very conservative styles of shoes, which undoubtedly exacerbates their overall aging.
In youth, even a dark and drab outfit can exude charm because of the youthful energy it embodies. However, as one ages, choosing all-dark, heavy gray clothing can make one appear dull and aged. This is especially true for middle-aged women who have gained weight, with excess fat around the waist, hips, and abdomen. Wearing all black in an attempt to "look thinner" often results in a listless and outdated appearance. For women over 40, dark gray, dark blue, dark brown, and black can be particularly disastrous colors if not styled properly.
Although I'm not a stylist, I've always been passionate about beauty and enjoy dressing up. Being a design student, I also have a good understanding of color combinations. Through long-term observation, I've found that by paying a little attention to color coordination in clothing, you can achieve a pleasing or eye-catching effect.
You can be beautiful at any age.
If you are 60 years old, your mental age should be 50, and your clothing and appearance should reflect that. If you are 40 years old, your mental age should be around 30, and your clothing and appearance should reflect that. Of course, if you are only in your 20s or 30s, dress like you are in your 30s. And if you are only in your 20s or 30s, you are in your prime, and there's nothing particularly special you need to pay attention to; as long as the colors are harmonious, you'll look beautiful. Secondly, for slightly older women, the colors of their clothing...
When styling your outfit, pay attention to its coordination with your body shape, status, and the occasion. Avoid wearing all dark, muted colors, but also avoid choosing overly bright or pale colors from head to toe. Furthermore, older women should never neglect the quality of their clothing. Never dress cheaply; the key is to create a lively and eye-catching look. In short, as long as you're willing, maintain a positive attitude, and put in a little effort, you can be beautiful at any age!
